Ed Forbes

Turks and Caicos, June 20, 2025 – When the winds of uncertainty blow, will the Turks and Caicos Islands (TCI) stand firm, or will we retreat into passivity? As we explore the question of independence, we must confront not just the external hurdles—but our internal fortitude.

True independence is not a ceremonial act. It is a national awakening. It requires leadership with vision, citizens with courage, and a culture that values collective responsibility over comfort.

As Barbadian Prime Minister Mia Mottley once declared, “True leadership is never about comfort. It is about calling, it is about timing, and it is about service.”

Leadership, however, cannot exist in a vacuum. The question is not whether someone will lead—but whether we, the people, are prepared to follow, support, and sacrifice alongside them.

It is easy to speak of sovereignty, but sovereignty without self-determination is merely symbolic. For independence to have meaning, we must first cultivate a society that takes responsibility for charting its own course. That process begins with honest reflection.

The reality is that the United Kingdom, through its appointed governors, serves its own strategic interests, not ours. They are not inherently malevolent, but they are not accountable to the people of TCI. That should not be a controversial observation, but a catalyst for rethinking our future.

Paradoxically, we are among the most educated populations in the Caribbean, yet our civic engagement particularly in politics, remains shallow.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Why is that? Is it fear? Apathy? Or have we grown too comfortable in the margins, preferring silence to confrontation?                                                                                                                                                                  Over the next five years, TCI will undergo a political reckoning. The 2029 election will not simply be a contest between the PNP and PDM. It will be shaped by tone, by national identity, and by a growing divide between rhetoric and results.

We must prepare the next generation not only to vote, but to lead. We need young people to believe that politics is not dirty, but necessary and that public service can still be honorable.

The foundation of any stable society is its ability to care for the most vulnerable. Yet poverty, both visible and hidden, persists in TCI.

It is a major contributor to both violent and white-collar crime. If we are to build a nation worthy of independence, we must address inequality head-on, investing in the sectors that sustain life like; agriculture, fishing, housing, trade schools and public infrastructure.

We must also reform how we engage foreign investors. Do we need more resorts and villas or smarter partnerships that empower our people and preserve our environment?

Key reforms include modernizing public services, establishing a digital identity system, fixing our immigration crisis, and ensuring everyone has a legal address for emergency services. These steps aren’t just administrative, they’re essential for sovereignty. It’s the only way to address our acute demographic challenges.

Premier Hon. Washington Misick has an opportunity to redefine his legacy. With renewed leadership and the political runway to make bold changes, the question is no longer about capacity, but will.

In the words of Goethe: “Property lost, something lost. Honour lost, much lost. Courage lost, everything lost.” We must not wait for leaders to demonstrate courage; they must be inspired by our collective will.

The path to independence is not paved with slogans, it is walked by a people determined to stand tall.

We must begin to chart our own course and create benchmarks. If not, I’m afraid the premises on which we have based our governance, policies and security on, will continue to be challenged, eroded or simply gone.

The million-dollar question is, do we have the mental toughness to do it? The answer lies not in our leaders, but in ourselves.

Dr. Justin Coulson

HappyFamilies.com

As I have surveyed and worked with thousands of families over the years, there are a small handful of habits that I see parents practice that make their families happy. And they are astonishingly powerful.

In this article I will share those habits by describing the principle, discussing how it works in practice, and offering a provocation to get you thinking.

1. Assume Positive Intent

Principle: Your children are not actually trying to ruin your life. They’re trying their best with limited skills and resources. Sometimes they can be clumsy. They only have their ‘L’ plates on.

In Practice: When your child does something upsetting, pause before reacting. Ask yourself, “What need is my child trying to meet?” Then, address the need rather than just the behaviour. “I can see you’re frustrated. Let’s figure this out together.”

Provocation: We wouldn’t assume your colleague intentionally sabotaged a project, yet we’re quick to believe our children are orchestrating psychological warfare against us. Your child isn’t a criminal mastermind plotting your demise. They’re just hungry, tired, or struggling to communicate. The fastest way to turn a good kid bad is to treat them like they already are.

2. Laugh Together

Principle: Shared joy creates bonds that withstand life’s challenges.

In Practice: Have family movie nights with comedies. Share funny stories. Play ridiculous games. Create inside jokes. Laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Make silly faces, tell dad jokes, and celebrate the ridiculous moments of family life.

Provocation: Most families spend more time coordinating schedules than creating memories. The average household shares fewer than 20 minutes of laughter per week, yet we wonder why everyone feels disconnected. If your family hasn’t had a proper belly laugh together in the last few days, your family culture is in critical condition.

3. Fix Things Fast

Principle: Conflict is inevitable; prolonged disconnection is optional.

In Practice: Be the first to apologise, especially if you’re the parent. Name what went wrong. Take responsibility for your part. Ask what would help. End with physical connection. A hug, high five, or fist bump resets everyone’s nervous system.

Provocation: Your silent treatment isn’t “teaching them a lesson”. Nor is yelling or threatening. It’s teaching them that love is conditional. Every hour of unresolved tension between you and your child is rewiring their brain to expect conditional acceptance in future relationships. Your pride isn’t worth the therapy bills they’ll have later.

4. Stay Close

Principle: Children of all ages are biologically wired for connection with their parents.

In Practice: Create daily rituals of connection: bedtime stories, morning cuddles, after-school check-ins. Sit on their bed for five minutes at night. Drive them to school when possible. Find small ways to connect throughout the day that show you’re thinking of them.

Provocation: Your child’s push for independence is a façade. Behind it is a child desperately hoping you won’t believe the act. While you’re respecting their “independence” by backing off, they’re interpreting your distance as abandonment. Your children need you more, not less – they just need you differently as they grow. They want your involvement in a supportive, not a controlling way.

5. Listen Fully

Principle: Being heard creates security and builds trust.

In Practice: Put down your phone when your child speaks. Make eye contact. Ask follow-up questions. Reflect back what you hear. Don’t immediately jump to solutions or lectures. Sometimes say, “Tell me more about that.”

Provocation: If your screen time report shows more hours on social media than minutes of eye contact with your children, you’re outsourcing the most important relationship they have right now to someone or something else. Your child will remember exactly zero of your “important” emails or Instagram reels, but they’ll never forget the times you chose your phone over their story.

6. Create Meaningful Traditions

Principle: Family rituals create stability and identity in an unpredictable world.

In Practice: Establish weekly family nights, seasonal celebrations, birthday traditions, or Sunday dinners. They don’t need to be elaborate – consistency matters more than complexity. Even simple traditions like Sunday morning pancakes create anchors of belonging.

Provocation: In a culture where kids construct identity through screens and peers, your family traditions are fighting for your children’s sense of self. Without these shared experiences, your family becomes little more than roommates who occasionally share Wi-Fi. The traditions you neglect creating today are the memories your children won’t have tomorrow.

7. Have the Hard Conversations

Principle: Children need parents who are brave enough to discuss difficult topics.

In Practice: Create an environment where no question is off-limits. Talk about bodies, relationships, disappointments, and fears in age-appropriate ways. Don’t wait for the “perfect moment”. Use everyday opportunities to address important topics briefly and naturally.

Provocation: Your discomfort with difficult conversations doesn’t make them unnecessary. It makes them urgent. The conversations you avoid having with your children will be filled by Google, YouTube, or the kid on the bus with wildly inaccurate information. If you won’t have these conversations, someone else – or something else -will, and you probably won’t like their curriculum.

“Purposeful Encounter with Chad Archbold”

Turks and Caicos, April 18, 2025 – It is the middle of Holy Week. The triumphal entry has passed, the temple has been cleansed, and Jesus is just hours away from sharing His final meal with His disciples. But before we move forward, we must pause and address the elephant in the upper room.

Each year, the question resurfaces with renewed intensity: Who killed Jesus?

For centuries, the easy answer has been Judas Iscariot—the one who betrayed the Son of God for thirty pieces of silver. (Matthew 26:14-16) His name is synonymous with treachery, his legacy stained with shame. But is Judas solely to blame?

The death of Jesus is not the product of one man’s greed or one council’s conspiracy. It is the culmination of generations of rebellion, a web of human sin and divine purpose interwoven across time. Judas was a key figure, yes—but he was not the central instigator.

The Gospel of John pulls back the veil on Judas’ heart, describing him as a thief and one who cared little for the poor, even as he pretended to (John 12:4-6). His motives were wrapped in personal ambition and perhaps a misplaced nationalism. He wanted a kingdom on his terms—not the suffering Savior Jesus came to be.

But Jesus’ death cannot be attributed to Judas alone. It includes the cowardice of Pilate, the envy of the Sanhedrin, the indifference of Herod, the bloodthirsty demands of the crowd, and the release of a known criminal—Barabbas (Luke 23:13-25). All of them, each in their own way, played a role. Yet even deeper than these historical players lies a darker, more sobering truth.

Jesus wept over Jerusalem not just because of what was to come, but because of what always had been. “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem… how often I would have gathered your children together as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you were not willing!” (Luke 13:34)

His death was necessary not merely because of their sin—but because of ours.

Scripture makes it clear: “He was pierced for our transgressions, crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on Him, and by His wounds we are healed.” (Isaiah 53:5)

So, who killed Jesus? …We did!

All of us. Humanity’s sin, from the Garden of Eden to today’s headlines, demanded a sacrifice. Romans 3:23 declares, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” The cross was not a momentary betrayal—it was the culmination of every betrayal.

But maybe we’ve been asking the wrong question all along. Instead of asking who killed Jesus, maybe we need to ask: Who is still crucifying Him today? (Hebrews 6:6)

Every time we choose pride over humility, vengeance over forgiveness, compromise over conviction—we echo the sins that nailed Him there. We trade Christ for convenience, truth for tolerance, righteousness for relevance.

The elephant in the upper room is not Judas—it’s us. It’s the unrepentant heart that still sells Jesus for the approval of men. It’s the believer who proclaims His name on Sunday and denies Him in practice Monday through Saturday.

But here is the beauty of Passover: even in the face of betrayal, Jesus still breaks bread. He still invites us to the table. He still washes feet. He still gives Himself.

So as we walk this sacred road to the cross, let us stop pointing fingers at Judas, Pilate, or the crowd. Let us examine our own hearts. Are we still crucifying Christ in our choices? Are we still putting Him to open shame?

Let the Spirit search us. Let the Lamb redeem us.

“Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, scorning its shame…” (Hebrews 12:2)

Shalom!